Read and Follow Directions!
We’re going through the Friday stack of papers. He’s a good student so there’s really not much to discuss as it relates to his school work from the past week. As I get near the bottom of the stack, out of the corner of my eye I catch him trying to sneak away.
“Where are you going? We’re still looking through your papers.”
He’s already fighting back tears. He confesses, “I was trying to go upstairs before you see my English paper.” This boy hates to be in any kind of trouble, and I’m crushed that he thinks he’s going to be in trouble for a bad grade on school work. My wife and I have made it pretty clear that we aren’t real worried about grades.
Sure enough, there near the bottom of the stack is a paper covered in red ink. The handout looks as though a killing spree might have happened during the English lesson. At the top of the page a giant zero complete with sad face markings glares at me. Scarlett underlining highlight the directions, and the margin shouts Read and follow directions!
Having taught English for several years, I check the paper to determine how much of the concept he actually mastered. Not a single answer is wrong from a mastery standpoint. Suddenly, I’m very angry about the grade, but I’m not angry at my son.
Trying to keep my face from turning the same shade as the paper’s markings, I say, “Looks like you didn’t read the directions. Did your teacher give this back and ask you to redo it following the directions?”
“No, she just gave it back today with all the other papers. I got a 0 out of 20. I’m so sorry.”
“Why are you sorry?”
“I got a bad grade.”
“Well, yeah, but, you actually got every problem right. You know the material. You demonstrated you understand it. You just didn’t follow directions. You made a mistake. Do you realize if you went back and wrote the same answers but followed the directions, you’d have a perfect score?” He tells me he understands, but the crocodile tears he’s holding back make me wonder what he’s really learning from all this.
Unfortunately, we’ve had several papers like this through the years. Often, he knows and understands the concepts, but he forgets to read and follow the directions. The papers come home all scratched up in crimson, and the behavior results in a lowered academic score. It’s unfortunate on several levels.
As a parent, I’ve actually grown to disregard the grades and scores because I’m not sure what they actually tell me. Does his “B” in language arts mean that he has yet to master the content or that he isn’t perfectly compliant? He doesn’t understand the concepts, or he is so bored by the assignments that he hurries to get it done? Is the grade an accurate reflection of his skills and learning or does it include something else, too? I’m a teacher and I’m really not sure what to make of the numbers and letters, and there is rarely any real descriptive feedback.
I want my child to learn grammar. I also want my child to learn how to follow directions. I think it’s an important life skill, and I’d appreciate the teacher’s help imparting it to my child. However, his inability to follow directions is separate from his understanding of grammar, and it shouldn’t be reflected in his grade. If the instructor wants to teach him to follow directions, and I hope she does, she need to do more than mark up his paper and mark down his grade. She needs to have a conversation with him, find out why he doesn’t follow instructions, and have him do the paper again correctly. Wouldn’t that be a better approach?
A. Here’s your zero. “READ AND FOLLOW DIRECTIONS!“
or
B. “Wow! You knew all the right answers and would have had a perfect paper, but you didn’t read the directions. In life we have to learn to follow directions and do things correctly. It’s a skill we use all the time to navigate our world. So, I’m not going to accept this paper. Instead, you have to do it over again until you follow the directions. Do you understand?”
I must confess, I’ve made the same mistake several times as a teacher. I’ve taken the shortcut and lowered the grade instead of taking the time to teach the life skill. It was a dumb move, and I regret it immensely. The student wasn’t served, and the moment I did it, my instruction became all about grades and no longer about learning. We don’t do that at home. If one of the kids doesn’t follow instructions when we give them, we have a conversation, and they do it again…correctly. Seems to me the same thing should happen at school.
What do you think? Am I wrong? Is my frustration over this unwarranted? How do you handle this in your classroom or with your own children? What approach should I take with the teacher? I’m interested in your thoughts.




Isn’t it eye-opening when being a parent guides us to being a better teacher; seeing our flaws through the work of our children’s teachers? It happens to me a lot. I see it as a chance for me to grow and get better. Too bad it isn’t a learning experience for the child’s teacher as well.
I would be frustrated by this situation too. And it is hard to decided what steps to take about it. Wondering, would the teacher be open to hearing about our concerns or will there be repercussions to our child if we “make waves”? We hope that the teacher will be open to a discussion of practice.
In the meantime, the conversations with your son about what he learned and what you value from the learning and from other behaviors, like following directions, will help him navigate the waters. But it definitely is frustrating when we feel like we have to soften the blows our kids get at school that really shouldn’t have been blows at all.
Thank you for your insight. LeeAnn, I have no idea how the teacher would respond to my concerns, but my gut tells me there is little openness to these types of discussions. Grades and grading are a bit of a sacred cow within traditional (industrial-style) education. Grades are a major focal point and the grading is always summative and feels punitive. Jason says it debilitates. Maybe he’s right. I’m just not sure what to do about it.
Okay, this one has been bouncing around inside of me since Sunday. That is why I have always liked your writing. It’s memorable. Warning: this is going to be theological. That’s the only way I know to how to think.
There is a way to grade that is redemptive and re-creative. A way that takes what is broken and fixes it. A way that ends with life and wisdom and relationship. There is also a way to grade that is thoroughly fallen. A way that traps students in discouragement and failure. A way that debilitates and fails to offer a way out. Strangely, this second way doesn’t actually educate, does it?
Unfortunately, I experienced more of the latter as a student. Grading assessed where you are. It was not a tool to empower you beyond that. As a teacher, I have to admit it is far too easy to grade in exactly that same manner. The crunch of time usually causes it. I should change that.
Phillip, I appreciate the lesson that even grading can be a redemptive exercise.
Thanks for your kind words, Jason. Lately, I’ve been learning and thinking a lot about formative assessment. (I’m working on a post. Give me time.) The goal of formative assessment is to help the student and the teacher identify what has been learned and what needs further attention. The evaluation assists the learning. It is not about calculating a grade or reporting a score. I never really used it that way. If only I’d known then what I know now… Jason, your comment has made me wonder if formative assessment can truly become transformative. If so, what would it take to make that happen? Hmm.
Have you ever seen the work of Jack Mezirow? He is credited with being the pioneer of “transformative teaching” as an approach. It is largely an adult-ed approach, but it certainly seems it can transfer to kids as well. I have only dipped by toes into the pool of his thinking but it feels like a good temperature. To simplify, he talks about four stages necessary in the transformation of thinking: 1) a disorienting experience; 2) reflection; 3) verbalization; and 4) action. That is super-reductionistic, sorry. It seems assessment would be done more as a mentor alongside the learner helping them move through the transformative cycle. FWIW
Phillip,
I know that I became a better teacher once I had children. I know now that parents are our greatest advocates. They are not enemies; they are part of the triad of learning. Parent/ student/teacher.
I also know that parenting is easier and reflects better within a household. Trying to parent at school with 100+ students is not as easy. While I give “Momma Rogers” talks, I don’t kid myself. Loving them enough to provide a transformative educational experience is difficult. Love is an important part of education. When love is absent it reflects in papers your child receives.
Love your child’s teacher and have a transformative/redemptive moment with him or her. Explain your desire to work within the triad for the benefit of your child.
Thanks, Suzanne. I appreciate the feedback. Teaching is a tough gig for sure and we are blessed that we have always had teachers that loved our kids. I think agree whole-heartedly that providing a transformative educational experience is difficult and time-consuming. I’m not even sure I know how to do it. But, it is what I want for my kids and my students, too.